Why Am I Always Angry? (What Finally Got It Out of Me)

Trauma. Constant anxiety. Depression. Bitterness.

Why am I always angry?

That's what I used to wonder. Maybe you're wondering it too.

Here's the thing. If it's in you, you have to get it out of you.

Maybe you've tried everything. Maybe the medication isn't working. I can't tell you what will fix everything. All I can tell you is what worked for me.

I used to wake up angry. That anger is now gone.

Write it out

That's it. Write it out.

You don't have to give it to anybody. You don't have to share it with a soul. This isn't about throwing anyone under the bus. In my book, I let a lot of people off easy. That's fine. It doesn't matter.

What matters is that I got what was in my head and in my chest OUT. Out to the universe. Out to your higher power. Out to anything. Just out.

Because if you don't, what's the alternative?

You might become bitter. Angry. Addicted. Maybe abusive.

Sound familiar? It did to me.

What I did

I picked a song. Simple Man by Lynyrd Skynyrd. And I rewrote it with my own story.

Here's a piece of it:

Once daddy told me when I was young, "Step aside, boy. I'm going downstairs, I grab my gun." And when he came back with it loaded with one, he was so raw, made some outlaws run. He shot at the ground beneath their feet, and they took off real quick right down that street. He never would surrender or admit defeat. The cops came with cuffs and threw him in the back seat. Dad told me when I was a young teen, "you got to have hope, ambitions, and dreams. Cuz life doesn't always go the way that it seems. So I pray that you make it through the valleys and the streams."

That's my story. It was stuck inside me for years. Now it's out.

Don't take it to the grave

I know a lot of guys who say, "I'm taking that to the grave."

Here's what they don't realize. Holding it in doesn't just hurt you. It hits everybody around you too. Your wife. Your kids. Your friends.

So break the cycle. Get rid of it.

I'm not here to tell you it's easy. I'm here to tell you it's possible. And it's worth it.

Try this

You don't need to be a writer. You don't need to be a musician. Try one of these:

1. Grab a notebook and dump it. No rules. No grammar. Nobody ever has to read it. Just get it out of your head and onto the page.

2. Pick a song you love and rewrite it with your story. The melody is already there. You just fill in your truth. That's what I did with Simple Man.

3. Pair it with your breath. Before you write, take five slow breaths. In through the nose, out through the mouth. It calms your nervous system so the real stuff can come out.

   
   

When my time is up, I hope it's well understood. And don't forget, I did the best that I could.

That's a line from my song. It's called Don't Forget.

This is what I would call "my forgiveness song"

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Get it out.

~ Jake